Know the marriage proposal and its rules in Islam

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There are some obligatory and mustahabb actions in proposing marriage and communication between the spouses, which should be taken into consideration by both parties. When someone is interested in marrying a woman, he should try to get her through the girl's guardian.

Let's not know the rules that should be followed in a marriage proposal

1. What is meant by marriage the proposal in Sharia:

The instruction in proposing marriage is to propose marriage on behalf of the person whose proposal may be accepted. This is the initial contract of the marriage episode beginners. This is the promise of marriage and the first step of marriage.

2. Istikhara:

Marriage is an important issue in the life of all men and women. So when they decide to get married, it is their duty to seek istikhara, that is, to seek goodness from Allah.

Narrated Jabir: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “O Allaah, I seek good from You through Your knowledge. I seek strength from you through your might and I seek your great grace. Because you are powerful, I am powerless, you are wise, I am ignorant and you are fully aware of the unseen. O Allah, if this deed (refer to the intended deed or subject here) as per your knowledge is beneficial for my deen, my livelihood, and my destiny or in this world and the hereafter, then enable me to do so. On the other hand, if this deed, according to your knowledge, is harmful to my religion, livelihood, and destiny, or in this world and in the Hereafter, then keep it away from me and keep me away from it, and fix it for me wherever the welfare is. Then satisfy me with that. ” (Bukhari: 117; Abu Dawood: 1540)

3. To consult among themselves:

Before consenting to marriage, one should contact and consult someone who is experienced in marriage and related matters, who knows well about the bride or groom's family.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to consult his Companions more and more. Narrated Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him): He said, "I did not see anyone other than the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, consult with his companions." (Tirmidhi: 1614; Baihaqi: 19280)

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Hasan Basri (RA) said,

“There are three types of personality in human beings: some people have full personality, some people have half personality and some people have absolutely no personality. A person with a full personality is one who can make decisions and also give advice. The one with half personality, who can decide but does not consult. And the person without personality is the one who can't make a decision and doesn't even consult with anyone. ” (Shihabuddin Abashihi, Al-Mustatarif fi Qulli Mustazarif: 1/18)

However, in this case, it is his duty to maintain fidelity. Just as he does not hide his faults from anyone, he does not fabricate any faults that he does not actually have. And of course, don't tell anyone about this advice.

4. Seeing the bride:

When someone wants to marry a woman, he is allowed to meet that woman. But there are specific guidelines in Islam about that too. The guidance of Muhammad (peace be upon him) gives a clear idea about this.

Muhammad (peace be upon him) said,

"When one of you proposes marriage to a woman, then if he can see so much beauty in that woman that fascinates him and inspires the girl (to marry), let him see it." (Baihaqi, Sunan Kubra: 1369)

In another hadith, narrated from Abu Hurairah, he said,

“I was with the Prophet (peace be upon him). At this point, a man came to him and told him that he had married an Ansari girl. Then the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked him, ‘Have you seen him?’ He said, ‘No. He said, "Go and see him." Because there is something (problem) in the eyes of the Ansaris. ” (Muslim: 3550)

5. Getting the permission of the bride in marriage:

It is very important to get the permission of a woman in marriage. It is a woman's right to have her say in marriage decisions and her father or guardians should not go beyond her will.

Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "A woman who has been married before has more right to decide on her marriage than her father or guardian, and permission must be sought for the marriage of a virgin girl, (but) silence is her consent." (Bukhari and Muslim)

6. Interaction between the bride and groom or going out:

Before marriage, a woman can communicate with a man proposing marriage via mobile, letter or email, but only to discuss the terms or conditions of the marriage, and that communication must be in an emotional and non-emotional way. Note that this communication should be with the consent of both parents or guardians. Moreover, it is strictly forbidden to go out, visit, or stay alone with the proposer before marriage. Because the man is not one of them until the marriage is consummated until their marriage is completed.

7. Not proposing marriage to one a person while the conversation is going on:

It is forbidden in the Shari'ah to propose marriage to a woman when she is talking about marriage somewhere else or when a woman has agreed to marry someone else. However, if the first proposer gives permission or withdraws the marriage proposal, then the second one can propose marriage to that woman.

According to Sahih Muslim, Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “One believer is the brother of another believer. Therefore, it is forbidden to charge more than one brother when buying something, or when one brother proposes (marriage) to another woman, another brother proposes to her (marriage) unless he gives her permission. ”

According to Bukhari, Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "One should not propose marriage to another's fianc unless he withdraws the marriage proposal or gives her permission (to propose marriage)."

8. Not to reject the offer of a suitable vessel:

A marriage proposal from a suitable person should not be rejected. Muhammad (peace be upon him) urged in this regard.

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "If someone offers you marriage whose righteousness and character you are satisfied with, you will marry him. If you don't, there will be widespread chaos in the world. " (Tirmidhi: 1064)

Muhammad (peace be upon him) added, "There should be no delay in three things: praying - when it is time for prayer, burying - when the janaza is over, and marrying a woman - when a man of equal status proposes marriage." (Al-Tirmidhi)
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